I have been of a belief earlier that when we overload ourselves, often over an emotional outburst like regrets specifically, we break our hearts. Even highly ductile and malleable metals have a breaking point, right? Likewise, I thought it’s okay to take rest and restore whenever there’s an emotional shutdown. At least, that’s how I was.
I sooner or later also realized that regrets keep chasing and we can’t keep shutting down repeatedly for the same issue. ‘Whenever’ was a mistake. A mistake when done once holds some value. But, when it keeps on popping as if there’s no end, it is literally draining. One can’t always choose to rest for the same emotional matter of concern.
Long after this realization dawned, I was told that there can’t be any heartbreaks over regrets, during a conversation with a friend. This assertion made me think. How can a person lose what is loved but not have heartbreak? I explored more on this “no heartbreak” philosophy and that’s when I came across a transcript which I totally enjoyed reading.
Has innocence lost its meaning at present times? We live in a world where even children are deprived of innocence. As young adults, most want to give the illusion that they are older than they actually are. Doesn’t this thought make one consciously lose a valuable virtue?
Facing the fact, it’s really hard to keep the inner child alive as we grow. But, is it not mostly because we want to look mature in the eyes of society? Let’s try recalling an incident when one of our peers would have behaved with innocence, maybe jump in the stairs or walk like a toddler used to. We’d have certainly heard voices about he/she acting weird, naive, or behaving so to grab attention. Why can’t it be considered simply as an act of joy and enjoyment?
I remember a sentence that was shared by a professor, a few years back. He used to tell us interesting facts and historical stories every day for at least 10 minutes.
“I never said she stole my money”.
Now, try reading this statement stressing one word at a time.
➟ I never said she stole my money – Someone else could have said it.
➟ I never said she stole my money – I didn’t say that she stole.
➟ I never said she stole my money – I only implied it or witnessed it. Continue reading
The first celestial lesson we take as a kid is that the sun rises in the east and sets in the west. But in reality, is it not the rotation of the Earth that makes the Sun appear to rise in the East? The difference is so subtle. We’re just logically tricked.
We all get to know this truth as we grow up but still choose to believe the lie that sun rises and sets. Why? Because it’s comfortable. For years together, we’ve trained our brain that way and it’s wired to take the easy-to-believe route that doesn’t need too many explanations.
Lying has been perceived as a disgraceful social habit. So, most often, we don’t lie in public. But, we continue lying in many other circumstances to our own self without even realising it. Continue reading
I ran to the moors chasing a rabbit. Thunder distracted me. I looked at the sky and stood there awestruck by the beauty of the mountains that were capped by dark clouds.
It started to drizzle. It felt good. I didn’t want to move. Hoping to spot a rainbow, I missed another rabbit, this time the one in the form of bubbled clouds, that crossed my path.
So is life. We chase our dreams and get stuck without working for them when there’s a distraction. Continue reading
“It is better to offer no excuse than a bad one. ”
– George Washington
Why do we make an excuse? Is that really bad?
Most often, it is. Every failure, every lost opportunity, brings in a growth retardant – self-doubt. When self-doubt enters our life, esp. when so much seems at stake, we start making excuses for two reasons:
➟ First, excuses make it easier to live with our failed expectations.
➟ Second, if we fail in a new trial, we already have a reason in hand.
The most common excuse which we come up with is the lack of time. We miss opportunities not because of lacking time but by misperceiving time. To support our arguments, the handiest tools are Continue reading
The view is always better from distance. When you get closer, you don’t get the perfect looks. You get to see the flaws. More of them, actually!
So are our relationships. It always appears pleasant from a distance. Only when you commit, you feel the real vibe. You might find pleasure, reflections, and even stuff you don’t like.
As a generic instance, let us consider the marvels of nature.
We don’t say that the mighty mountains might have looked better had they been steeper. We don’t judge the Continue reading
Would you be willing to erase a certain part of your life – childhood, teens, the period of 20s, or adult stage? Most won’t.
Even if each stage carries a ton of bitter memories, there’ll Continue reading
“We are masters of the unsaid words, but slaves of those we let slip out.”
– Winston Churchill
Maintain the same patience when replying to someone, as you have when you browse with new keywords till you get the precise results.
Be someone who believes in the efficacy of using the right words, not only with Google but also with human relations.
You don’t have to meditate to calm your mind.
All you need to do is to stop thinking about the future. The best way to stop thinking about the future is to get busy today. Continue reading
Isn’t gold precious? Then, why not be pure gold?
Pure gold, 24K, is lustrous and precious; but, it is soft. It is unsuitable for most applications including coinage and jewelry making.
When pure gold is mixed with traces of zinc, copper and nickel, it becomes stronger. It can still be called ‘Gold’. However, when these are added in greater quantities, gold loses its luster.
Likewise, we may lack grit if Continue reading
Ever heard of a neural network?
It makes mistakes.
It learns from them.
Give a try. Fall. Rise. Experience and learn stuff the hard way.
Be like a neural network!
Our mind has a tendency to form our everyday habits into patterns. We sink in this monotony. Some get more creative under such circumstances, while a larger group gets frustrated. We ignore this sign of frustration often, convincing ourselves that we are on track by following the routine. But, the truth is that this tendency does more harm than good.
One needs courage to get out of this unexciting life and restore the aliveness in carrying out day-to-day activities.
What can be done to get rid of this boring mind set? One way is to try out new stuff, like trying out things you have longed to do but just kept postponing indefinitely, developing a new hobby, travel, etc. If that can’t be accomplished to fit into Continue reading
My day started with a Quote from The Alchemist today.
Everything that happens once can never happen again.
But everything that happens twice will surely happen a third time.
— Paulo Coelho, The Alchemist
There could be challenges Continue reading
Being born, being in love and then dying..
These are just 10% of the important moments in our life.
The rest are just reactions to these moments.
The above is a snippet taken from a movie’s subtitles. It looks simple but has a significant life lesson.
Reactions are normal – be it blissful or dejected moments.
Don’t hide yourself behind the haze of Continue reading
What’s wealth? Does that concern money? Maybe; But, not always.
There are common people who are rich in many other dimensions.
- Rich in knowledge? Enlighten people.
- Rich in skills? Train or Assist.
- Rich in health? Create awareness.
- Rich in money? Embrace and achieve more.
- Rich in love? Spread and Reciprocate.
Are you questioning yourself?
On thoughts of execution, future plans or morality?
That’s fine. Being insightful and reviewing yourself is welcome.
On your capabilities?
Never do that.
There is MAGIC in asking Continue reading