How strong are your personal secrets?
“I thought about how there are two types of secrets:
— the kind you want to keep in
— the kind you don’t dare to let out.”
– Ally Carter, Don’t judge a girl by her cover.
“Every man has his secret sorrows which the world knows not.”
– Henry Wadsworth Longfellow, Hyperion
There are different classifications of secrets. The following are few among them.
- Big secrets – mostly personal; may involve/affect you or your family directly. Examples may include phobias, abuse, illness or even bank statements.
- Family secrets – Cousins become the partners in crime when there are discussions on extended families.
- Little secrets – maybe personal or fun, that you don’t mind sharing with friends and doesn’t affect anyone involved.
- Embarrassing secrets – involving either you or others. These may be weird habits of yours, something you have accidentally looked upon or childhood fantasies. Some of these when shared with friends would no long be embarrassing and as mortifying as you’ve imagined. They could even take funny swaps that you may not be embarrassed anymore.
- Secrets with Co-workers – Most are safe as they’ll never get the chance to meet your real friends or your room-mates.
- Marriage/Relationship secrets – may include family history, finances, inside jokes, trust violation and many others.
- Surprise secrets – remain secrets only to them whom the surprise is intended. Such secrets are really fun even when they die at the same moment the surprise ends.
- Gossip secrets – often shared between many or within your friend circle. These are usually powered by negativity and are extremely hurtful when revealed. Better keep yourself out of these by not involving.
- Trading secrets – are those that hold opportunities to generate profits and are highly confidential. These certainly need the good will of the employers in a firm.
- Tech secrets – Browsing history, App locks, proxies, webcams, toxic PCs, etc.
The way you handle secrets show a lot about your personality. But the thing is only you can judge your truthfulness.
“To keep your own secrets is wisdom; but to expect others to keep it is folly.”
– William Scott Downey, Proverbs
Don’t forget people can only enter till where you allow them to. Also, be mindful of the implications to the person involved in the secret when you choose to share it with someone.
Comment if you have a little secret to share or an embarrassing secret to get rid of.